Let’s talk about Unrealistic Expectations
So today I'm going to do some straight up teaching about perfectionism. One of the things I'm going to touch on is unrealistic expectations. The goal of trying to reach perfection is an illusion because you're really just perfect the way you are. However, this goal post of perfection creates a lot of unrealistic expectations.
Let’s have a look at three reasons why you may have unrealistic expectations.
Reason #1: You believe in order to feel adequate you have to constantly achieve.
This goes back to some point in your life where you failed and it didn't feel good. You're constantly moving onto the next goal because you get a high from the goal you achieved which made you feel adequate. Then the high goes away, so you keep setting these goals for yourself. Sometimes your goals are unrealistic, or the amount of time you give yourself to accomplish those goals are unrealistic. Crossing things off that list makes you feel good and makes you feel adequate. For example, you create a to-do-list with 10 items but you really only have time to do 6 of those things.
Reason #2: You often forget that you're human.
You put all this pressure on yourself to do it all, and you tell yourself you can't delegate because no one can do it like me. You tell yourself you can’t cry or crack, but you're over committing yourself at work and you're really trying to fill the void of ‘I am not enough.’ You try to overcommit and please all these people to feel like you're enough. In doing so, you're not even really human because you’re doing things that burn you out.
Reason #3: You’ve been setting unrealistic expectations for so long that you might not even think they are unrealistic.
This might come as a surprise to you. You might be on autopilot, feel anxious, overwhelmed, or tired, and to you, that's just a part of life. You might not even realize you're setting unrealistic expectations because you're so used to being in that cycle. You might not even question it and you just think it's normal. But I want you to know that feeling tired, inadequate and overwhelmed isn’t normal and you don't need to live that way.
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About the Author
Bianca is passionate about helping people become all they are created to be by peeling back layers of shame, fear, and hurt to discover the treasure within. As a Licensed Professional Counselor in Georgia with a Master of Arts in Professional Counseling from Richmont Graduate University, she provides soul-aligning therapy that helps clients connect with their most authentic selves through an intuitive, spirit-guided approach. She creates a safe, respectful space where clients can explore what matters most to them, and for those seeking spiritually-integrated or faith-based counseling, she is trained to weave spiritual practices and Christian beliefs into therapy sessions. Additionally trained in EMDR, Bianca is committed to helping clients live aligned with who they truly are and accept themselves despite their imperfections.
